By Lynda Russell-Whitaker
“You’ve got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative, latch on to the affirmative, don’t mess with Mister In between.” From music by Harold Arlen, and lyrics by Johnny Mercer. Published in 1944.
Whenever I hear this song (Rumer released a very good cover version in late 2012) it makes me smile, affecting my mood. This could simply be the effect of the music on my brain, or the action affecting my mood. I shall elucidate.
There are thousands of self-help books out there offering us strategies, hints and tips that claim to work to make us feel and be positive, happy, and satisfied with our lives.
None of these can really be proved to work. However, there has been some interesting new research and findings that echo the thoughts and writings of a late 19th Century psychologist William James (brother of the novelist Henry James).
James’s magnum opus, The Principles of Psychology, first published in 1890, is still required reading for students of behavioural science (in the US at least). He subsequently published a number of other important works, with disparate yet interesting theories. One of these being that an emotion depends on feedback from one’s body.
Even earlier, the Italian Dominican physiognomist and philosopher Tomasso Campanella (1568-1639) apparently “composed his face, his gesture, and his whole body, as nearly as he could, into the exact similitude of the person he intended to examine; and then carefully observed what turn of mind he seemed to acquire by the change.”
In the 21st Century there is growing scientific evidence that the brain is indeed very malleable. Neuroscientist Michael Merzenich has given a fascinating Ted.com talk on the plasticity of the brain and the fact that our brains have an extraordinary ability to change and adapt themselves.
Furthermore, by altering ingrained habits and simply acting in a different way, we really can change our mood. If we make regular efforts to change these habits, we can bring about long-term changes in the way we think.
It’s just as well. With mental health problems on the rise, the cost to UK business is substantial. The Centre for Mental Health calculated that from mental ill-health alone in 2011 presenteeism cost the UK economy £15.1 billion per annum, while absenteeism costs £8.4 billion.
If we are to positively impact this very real problem, we will need good practical strategies to manage our anxiety and stress levels ourselves, as individuals.
1. Look at things in a new way
Author of ‘Kitchen Table Wisdom’ and ‘My Grandfather’s Blessings’, Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen, an early pioneer in the mind/body holistic health movement stresses the importance of finding meaning in our lives:-
“Most of us lead far more meaningful lives than we know. Often finding meaning is not about doing things differently; it is about seeing familiar things in new ways. ”
2. Tell and listen to stories
As I briefly touched on in my last article for SpeakUp! (Storytelling: No. 49), stories give meaning to our lives. In Dr Remen’s view:
“Everybody is a story. When I was a child, people sat around kitchen tables and told their stories. We don’t do that so much any more. Sitting around the table telling stories is not just a way of passing time. It is the way the wisdom gets passed along. The stuff that helps us to live a life worth remembering.”
As one of her patients said when he experienced first hand how one of his most profitable medical inventions (with sales in excess of 10,000 per year) had transformed the life of another of her patients who had been fitted with this device:- “I only knew the numbers, Rachel. I had no idea what they meant.”
Prior to meeting the patient, her relatives and friends who had been involved in her care, this man had felt his life to be a failure, looking only at the ‘negative’ aspects and what he felt he hadn’t accomplished.
3. Daily Practise
Dr Remen has created some practices (she says they’re cheaper than Prozac!) to be performed at the end of each day. Taking only ten minutes at night, start with the most recent incident and going backwards, first ask yourself: “what [pleasantly] surprised me today?”
As soon as you find it, write it down.
Repeat this process, asking yourself: “What touched my heart today?” As soon as you find something, write that down.
On the third and final run, ask yourself: “What inspired me today?” Again, write down the first incident that comes to mind.
The more you practise this, the more you will get be able to see ‘familiar things in new ways’ and like I am starting to do, appreciate the wonder and, dare I say, mystery of your daily life.